GREEN FLAGS TO LOOK FOR WHILE DATING


 

While dating, it's essential to keep an eye out for green flags - signs that indicate a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Here are 12 green flags to look for:

 

1.Clear and direct communication: You don't feel confused about whether or not they want to spend time with you. They are clear and direct in their communication.

 

2.Reliable and consistent communication: Communication is reliable and consistent. You don't have to wonder if they're interested or if they'll follow through on plans.

 

3.Aligned words and actions: When they say they want to spend time together, they follow it up by making plans with you. Their words and actions are aligned.

 

4.Emotional availability: They display emotional availability, meaning they share their emotions, are vulnerable, and seek to understand and know you on an emotional level.

 

5.Present-day treatment: They treat you well now, not just potentially in the future. You're not focused on what could be; you're enjoying the present.

 

6.Accountability: They can admit mistakes and apologize when wrong.

 

7.Safe communication: You feel safe bringing up problems, concerns, or issues about the relationship.

 

8.Validated and heard: You can share your needs, feelings, and thoughts without being dismissed, invalidated, or judged.

 

9.Active listening: When you speak, you feel truly listened to and seen.

 

10.Respected boundaries: They respect your boundaries and stop doing things that make you uncomfortable.

 

11.Healthy conflict resolution: An argument or disagreement doesn't mean the entire relationship is in jeopardy.

 

12.No jealousy or passive-aggressiveness: They're not jealous or passive-aggressive when you want to spend time without them.

 

Additionally, here are some more green flags to look for:

- They prioritize your feelings and needs

- They respect your independence and individuality

- They communicate openly and honestly about their intentions and feelings

- They are supportive and encouraging

- They respect your boundaries and personal space

- They are accountable for their actions and apologize when wrong

- They prioritize communication and conflict resolution

- They are patient and understanding

- They respect your past and your experiences

- They are willing to grow and learn with you

 

By keeping an eye out for these green flags, you can build a strong foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Remember, a good partner will respect your boundaries, communicate openly, and prioritize you

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