How to be Emotionally Available

 

 


Emotional availability is the foundation of a healthy relationship. It involves being comfortable with emotions, intimacy, commitment, and open communication. If you've identified some emotional unavailability in yourself, here's how to shift it:

 

Step 1: Examine your beliefs about relationships and intimacy. Do you believe getting close to someone means they'll leave or hurt you? Do you believe you don't deserve love or connection? Whatever beliefs you uncover, challenge them by writing down reasons why they're not true. Provide specific examples and seek professional support if needed.

 

Step 2: Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Emotional availability requires breaking out of your comfort zone and allowing yourself to feel emotions you've been avoiding or resisting. Start by acknowledging and accepting these emotions, and remember that it's a sign of inner strength, not weakness.

 

Step 3: Find a safe person to open up to, such as a therapist, coach, family member, or trusted friend. Being more emotionally available involves becoming more vulnerable and intimate with others. Initially, it may feel uncomfortable, but it will get easier with time and practice. Start sharing your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust, and you'll eventually learn that it's safe and feels good.

 

Step 4: Work through difficult emotions as they arise. When you're more vulnerable with others, challenging emotions may surface. Accept and comfort yourself as you would a small child in pain. Reassure yourself that everything is okay and that you're there for support.

 

Additionally, prioritize self-care and stress management, as these can impact emotional availability. Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you relax, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies. Establish healthy boundaries and communicate openly with your partner to ensure a balanced and fulfilling relationship.

 

Remember that emotional availability is a journey, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work through these steps. Celebrate your small wins and don't hesitate to seek support when needed. By becoming more emotionally available, you'll cultivate deeper connections, intimacy, and a more authentic relationship with yourself and others.

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