IF SHOWING YOUR INTEREST SCARES SOMEONE OFF, LET THEM GO

 


If showing your interest scares someone off, let them go! There's a lot of advice out there about how to express your interest without coming on too strong, but if you want real, healthy love, forget that advice. Be clear and direct about your feelings, and if they're scared off, it's a sign that they're not ready for intimacy and emotional availability.

 

It's okay to be vulnerable and express your interest, even if it means risking rejection. Think of it as dodging a bullet if someone backs away. You've just identified someone who isn't looking for the kind of relationship you want. Better to know that early on than years into a relationship when you've invested time and energy.

 

Emotionally unavailable people aren't bad or evil; they're just not ready. Let them move forward on their path while you move forward on yours. You deserve someone who is as enthusiastic about you as you are about them. Don't settle for anything less!

 

Remember, healthy love requires emotional availability, intimacy, and clear communication. If someone is scared off by your feelings and love, they're not the one for you. Keep being your amazing self and know that the right person will come along when the time is right.

 

It's important to recognize that everyone has their own journey and timeline. Just because someone isn't ready for a healthy relationship doesn't mean they're flawed or unworthy. It simply means they're not a match for you.

 

Don't waste time trying to convince someone to be in a relationship with you. If they're not interested, it's okay! You deserve someone who is excited about the prospect of being with you.

 

Also, remember that you can't force someone to be emotionally available. If they're not ready to open up and be vulnerable, it's not your job to fix them. Your job is to focus on your own emotional availability and find someone who is on the same page.

 

It's okay to be patient and wait for the right person. Don't settle for someone who is only half-in or who is emotionally available, supportive, and genuinely interested in getting to know you. You deserve someone who will show up for you, listen to you, and make an effort to understand you. Don't settle for anything less!

 

Remember, healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and communication. If someone is consistently distant, unresponsive, or uninterested, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and prioritize your own emotional well-being.

 

Keep being your amazing self and know that the right person will come along when the time is right. Don't waste time on people who don't see your worth – you deserve so much

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