Nirvanae

  As we navigate the complexities of love and relationships, it's essential to recognize that healthy partnerships require balance and integration. Societal expectations often dictate that individuals conform to traditional masculine or feminine roles, but this limitation can lead to imbalance and stagnation. By embracing both assertiveness and emotionality, decisiveness and surrender, we can transcend gendered expectations and cultivate more authentic connections.   This balance allows us to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and nurture emotional intimacy. When we embody both aspects, we create a harmonious union within ourselves and with our partners. However, when we lean too heavily into one aspect, we risk missing out on the full richness of human connection.   Overemphasizing masculine energy can lead to emotional disconnection and neglect of our own vulnerability. We may prioritize logic and control over empathy and understanding, causing our relationships t...

  SHARING YOUR FEELINGS DOESN'T RUIN" YOUR RELATIONSHIP Sharing your feelings and needs in a relationship is often seen as a vulnerable and potentially risky act. However, it's essential to recognize that expressing yourself authentically doesn't "ruin" relationships. Instead, it provides valuable information about the dynamics and compatibility within the relationship.   Here are two crucial points to consider:   1. You aren't "ruining" the relationship by sharing your feelings; you're simply being true to yourself and communicating your needs. 2. If being vulnerable leads to the relationship ending, it's likely because the relationship wasn't sustainable or healthy for you in the first place. A positive and supportive partner will respect your needs and feelings, and work with you to navigate challenges.   When you share your thoughts, feelings, needs, preferences, or boundaries with your partner, you'll likely encounter one of...

Understanding the potential dangers in relationships is crucial for building healthy and fulfilling connections. While not every red flag signifies a doomed relationship, recognizing these warning signs can help you make informed decisions about your emotional well-being. Patterns of Abuse and Control ● Physical, Emotional, and Psychological Abuse: Any form of abuse, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, is a definitive red flag. It erodes trust, self-esteem, and can have lasting emotional consequences. ●Controlling Behavior: Attempts to isolate you from friends and family, excessive jealousy, or monitoring your activities are indicators of a controlling dynamic. Healthy relationships are built on trust and mutual respect. ●Gaslighting: Manipulative tactics designed to make you question your reality and sanity. This insidious form of emotional abuse can be particularly damaging. Communication Breakdown ●Lack of Openness: Difficulty expressing feelings, consistent misunderstand...

 The first night with a person you're getting to know is always tricky, you never really know how to act. I met this guy some months after i moved to the Uk, i was a bit lonely and honestly was in need of someone to get me through the "new in town phase". I asked  my handler to find me a guy in the UK and she sends me the profile of this man a day after, she said he was interested in me. I wasn't really feeling his picture, i could tell i was not attracted to him but i said what the heck? Let's see how this goes. We get talking and i find he's actually a cool guy. He's a project manager and he has a dog. One thing you should know about me is that i love dogs and he had the cutest puppy from the pictures he sent. I've never been one to write people off based on their looks, but after seeing John i already knew it wasn't going to work. I felt guilty because it felt like i had led him on even when i knew the relationship could not possible progress be...

I have always had a thing for opinionated women. I got matched with one and it was love at first argument. Don't get me wrong i don't mean i like women that fight or argue a lot. I just love women that have  strong opinions and i can have fun little debates with. And Ada was that girl. Her bio said "i bring the storm, "i said ah! Ada the storm bringer,  lets do this lol". She was a breath of fresh air cause i was tired of meeting other women with no personalities. Our banters were so good, we were almost always breathless after. Then we finally decided to meet. We met at this bar she choose, it was so not  my my style, very loud and filled with people. But i was really looking forward to meeting her so i didn't mind. We got seated, and our chemistry was electrifying. We talked about the traffic we both had to sit in to get there, the rain that fell the night before, and about the drinks we were having. We talked and argued,  it was the best date ever, and she...

Does anyone else hate how hot the sun gets from 12pm? I was off from work this particular Friday afternoon and i decided to check for some profiles on nirvanae. I just kept scrolling through a lot of hot profiles wondering why no one had accepted my requests yet. Well, the picture i used wasn't really flattering, i kept saying i would change it, but who actaullly  has the time to take pictures? Then all of a sudden i found this profile of Sarah, her profile picture was of her in an art gallery wearing a mustard yellow gown, heels and the biggest smile  She looked happy and mischievous, just like my type. I quickly sent a request and i guess the gods knew i needed a win because she accepted me shortly. Our first conversations had a lot of energy, we laughed a lot, cracked jokes, talked about our favorite restaurants in town. And did i mention she was into Football? My dream girl truely. I felt a connection i had not felt since my university days. But then, the switch flipped. O...

  Our clients absolutely crack us up! Laugh with us at some of their match  experiences. 2nd slide “ First of all, when did being overly romantic become a bad thing, cause this woman said it was too much and i should calm down, please help me understand. Please I've decided to save my plenty romance, tell me when you find someone else for me" - T 3rd slide "I showed up 2 hours late and acted like nothing was wrong 😭 I had to look fine nau. He still went on with the date though but he never contacted me again. He's strict o. I really did not even notice the time had gone by so fast, and he was really fine o. He cannot even forgive somebody 😭😂" -K 4th slide ⁠” i don't even  understand what happened on that date, I'm not even kidding the moment my butt hit the chair this man started talking. He did not even let me say one word. Please i just blocked him after, if i wanted to listen to a radio i would have just stayed at home"- S 5th slide “ His job d...